This is a topic that many people write about, and for good reason. It’s important.
It’s important for everyone, but especially for those of us with small children.
As Americans in 2015, we are conditioned to crave dramatic joys and big moments. We want our highs to be really, really high. We desire excitement and intrigue, and then we often grow disillusioned and even depressed when our daily realities fail to bring us monumental moments of elation.
This morning my three littles and I spent our time at a place called “Chatter Splatter.” It is an indoor gym facility equipped with every type of ball pit, ride-on toy, plastic slide, foam gym mat, coloring book, trampoline and bounce house that the five-and-under set could ever desire.
It’s also crawling with small humans and tired-looking mamas in yoga pants (myself included).
After playtime, we visited the potty and put on our shoes and jackets. This took about half an hour (no lie).
Then I loaded three little tushes into my SUV and drove a mile down the road to Chick-fil-A. I ate there for the 8,762,541 time since having my first child five years ago.
I let the kids trade in their kids meal prizes for ice cream cones, but then decided it was time to leave when I realized that some kid took a dump in the tube slide.
For me, none of this was exciting or monumental.
In fact, it was exceptionally mundane.
How many monumental, dramatic moments have you experienced in your life thus far? Maybe a handful? Perhaps your wedding day? If you’re a parent, surely the births of your children? Maybe that day you got the job you always wanted? That time on the beach in Maui? Or when you finally took a risk and opened that business you’ve dreamed about for years?
The reality is that those huge moments of immense emotion and joy are few and far between.
We live our lives in the mundane.
We live in the small moments – the moments of teeth brushing, hair washing, coffee drinking, meal preparing, car driving, boo-boo kissing and clothes changing.
If you’re looking for joy in the grand, monumental moments, you will live your life with a spirit of dissatisfaction and disillusionment.
Instead, look for joy in the mundane – it is there to be found.
Because this morning at Chatter Splatter my baby girl asked for my help climbing into the swing and then quietly and contentedly delighted in me pushing her back and forth, back and forth. It was sweet.
At Chick-fil-A my five-year-old went to the register all by himself and politely asked for his ice cream cone. I was so proud of his confidence.
After nap my three-year-old snuggled in my lap and I scratched his back and arms for a long time. Holding him close, with his curls ticking my nose, felt so good.
These were tiny moments of joy.
Don’t let them pass you by.
Embrace the mundane. You live in it. And there is much joy to be found.